When a noble child was very young, his mother taught him his prayer. His formal education began at seven years of age. The religious instruction generally did not consist of a special course, since all the acts of the young knight were stamped with Christian ideals.
Moral instruction came from the lips of all those who surrounded the young baron, and he assimilated all this naturally – instructions on politeness, deportment and good manners. They can be summed up in one word: courtesy.
Both the mother and the father of the future knight were deeply involved in teaching the young baron lessons in courtesy.
“It is always best to begin with God,” his mother would say. “In the difficult hours of your life, remember that He will never desert you if you put your trust in Him. Remember the story of Aiol. His father Elie was exiled from France, disinherited, and sick, living in a miserable hovel. When the day came that Elie had to send his son to recover his territory, he could give him nothing but rusty armor, an old shield, and four pence. But he spoke these noble words, ‘Son, if you lack anything - go to your Father in Heaven.’ And the child replied, ‘If we do not have enough here, God at least has plenty!’ That is the faith you must have in your heart.”
His father would tell him, “You must have confidence in God, but also you must also have justice on your side. Be assured, my child, that if you fight for God and for right, you will conquer.”
“Above all, be humble,” his mother would continue. “If you had 100 horses in your stables and all the wealth of the world, nothing would go well for you if pride possessed your heart. In one single day, pride can cause a man to lose what it takes him seven years to gain.
“Be generous and magnanimous. Be the patron of the poor, the widow, and the orphan. Practice largesse. An old proverb tells us, ‘He is not foolish who gives first.’ But it should not be self-interest that prompts you in your giving. Be mindful of the lines we heard a minstrel sing the other day: ‘Be liberal, give largely. The more you give away, the more honor you will gain, and the richer you will be.’ …
“And since your father has spoken of knights, I will add that there is another tribute you should pay good men, and that is respect. Rise up when in the presence of a good man, and when you are on the road salute everyone. Do not jest or banter with the poor, and be humble in your dealings with both the great and the small. To all, show a smiling countenance and joyful mien. These things cost so little..........
The father then takes up the lesson: “Your mother has rightly quoted familiar sayings, but it is the prouder words that have sprung from the hearts of our poets that I would have you follow. ‘Death, rather than dishonor!’ was Roland's cry at Roncesvalles. This has been the cry of every Catholic baron, and will be yours also. You already know that "the pure heart does not - and cannot - lie." Remember what they said of Ogier: ‘He was a great man, brave and true, for he was pure of heart.’ This is the most beautiful funeral oration that any true knight could desire.
“Remember, my son, that the knight has models in Heaven. It was St. Michael who overcame those vassals of God who revolted against the Sovereign Lord. St. George, St. Dominic, St. Maurice and his companions left the gardens of Paradise to come and fight with our knights here below. It is they whom you must imitate.
“Your mother has high aspirations for you. I am more moderate, and propose only human models to you: Roland, certainly, but also Oliver, and also the rough Guillaume, who fought a valiant fight for the Christian race and died a monk at Gellone; or the youthful Vivien, who fell on the field of battle at Aliscans, and whose soul Angels came down from Heaven to transport … and all the other great heroes of the Christian world. I give you, then, Charlemagne, Oliver, Roland and Godfrey de Bouillon.
“I will not hide from you that I prefer Godfrey de Bouillon. I think that he resembles Oliver as well as Roland, but with a greater degree of piety. He was as gentle as he was brave, and throughout the Crusade he always distinguished himself by a singular moderation, which, however, never permitted his courage to be questioned. ‘There goes the Duke Godfrey,’ the Crusaders would say, as he passed by, ‘who has the heart of a lion.’
You already know the reply he made to those who wanted him to wear the crown after the capture of Jerusalem: ‘God forbid that I should wear a crown of gold in the place where Our Lord Jesus Christ wore a crown of thorns.” The world has never seen a greater Crusader than he.“You could take as your example a cousin of Girart de Roussillon, called Fouquie - the minstrels were singing to us about him only the other day. ‘Fouquie was heroic, courteous, frank, good, and a proficient speaker,’ they sang. He was a skilled hunter in the forest and marsh; he knew chess, backgammon, and dice. His purse was never closed to anyone who asked from it. Good or bad, all shared in his generosity and he was never slow to bestow largesse. He was supremely pious, for never in his life was he in a court where an act of injustice was proposed or committed without his energetic efforts to prevent it.
“He always fought for the better purpose; he loved peace and detested war. Yet, when he had his helmet laced, his shield around his neck and his sword by his side, he was proud, valiant, impetuous, superb, merciless and pitiless. When pressed by a crowd of armed men, he showed himself the firmest and bravest. He never yielded an inch, and there was not a man on earth daring enough to contend with him. He always loved brave knights and honored the poor as well as the rich. All, powerful or weak, found in him their support. Yes, my son, you may well take him for your model!”
“Yes there is your model!” the boy’s mother agreed. “Now, my dear child, do not forget that all the lessons of your mother and father can be said in a few words: Do your duty, come what may. The rest matters but little.”
